A friend from s chool and me s at on a couch, s ipping coffee and reminis cing the old times … from the time we met at a coaching center, then two years of togethernes s in s chool, entering the s ame univers ity for graduation. We parted ways after this . She flew to London s been almos t 3 years now that we finis hed college and headed our ways , but the bes t part is there has been no full s top in our relations hip…jus t a few ellips is and a few commas here and there. But there has been no decimal point.
The focus s hifted to our friends who have been with us through our s chool days , our mis chievous acts , our birthday parties and all that we guys did together- good and bad! But where are they today? Why are they not here enjoying this coffee table convers ation with us ? The ans wer was s imple: they had other priorities - work/s tudies , hous e hold chores , families and mos t importantly their s weethearts - hus bands /wives , boy friends /girl friends or jus t their current flames .
I s ometimes wonder how s uddenly s omeone s teps into your life one fine day, from abs olutely no where and becomes a prominence at an ins tant. You jus t don’t care about your parents , who’ve rais ed you from the cradle; your friends , who’ve been with your through your s crapped knee days , you s imply fail to look beyond this one particular pers on. All your emotions , you daily s chedules become dependant and s tarts getting controlled by him/her. And the bes t part is , you don’t even tend to mind it.
It is of cours e an amazing feeling to have a new entrant in your life, and all the attention s howered at you, but you can’t get blinded by that glaze. You can’t leave your bes t friend alone at a party jus t to enjoy a dance or s hare a clos e moment with your partner. You can’t mis s a s lumber party with your girlfriends for a romantic date. You can’t s top talking to a particular pers on jus t becaus e your beloved does n’t like it. By doing all this you hurt too many people for a pers on who might not even be worth it. And apart from this , you tend to kill your own identity and your own dis cretion to take decis ions for a life which is only meant to be yours and yours alone.
I am not agains t being into a relations hip, but I jus t ins is t on s triking a balance. Set your priorities s traight. Take enough time to know who’s worth what and then act accordingly. As it is s aid:
"There is an important difference between love and friends hip. While the former delights in extremes and oppos ites , the latter demands equality.
- Francois e D'Aubegne Maintenon
True it is , is n’t it? :)
