“I am not looking for a
perfect man to get married to…but the one with flaws that I can compromise with!”
A friend made this statement this morning,
who is currently in a process of checking out guys shortlisted by her parents,
to get married to. This one statement stuck me so hard and made me write this
blog, since it resonated exactly my thoughts. Incidentally, I happen to
coincide with the idea that no living being on the face of this earth is
perfect. Everybody would have their own set of short comings. But it’s for you
to decide whether or not you can live with those flaws for the rest of your
lives.
This explains why I do not have a list of
how I want my "Mr. Right" to be, unlike most others out there. It is
more than likely that you end up with someone completely opposite to the
fictitious figure that appears in your check list. Or you may just loose out on
your near "Perfect Mr./ Ms Right" just because you had been struck up
too tight to your check list.
Speaking of perfect partners, we often
say they people do eventually find their “soul mates” to spend their rest of
their lives together. And this belief has its roots more than a thousand years
back, when Plato- a classical Greek philosopher, gave his version of how this
concept came into existence. In his dialogue The Symposium Plato has Aristophanes present
a story about soul mates. Here goes the mythic story:
Aristophanes asserts that humans originally had four arms,
four legs, and a single head made up of two faces. However, Zeus- the father of
Gods and men (read Greek mythology), feared its strength and hegemony, so much
so that he cut each one of them into halves. They were left randomly scattered
on the Earth, proscribed to spend their lives in search of their other half, to
complete them.
This theory is based on the belief that humans, on a subconscious
level, realize that there is something missing in them and they seek the sense
of completeness.
"All our young lives we search for
someone to love. Someone who makes us complete. We choose partners & change
partners. We dance to a song of heartbreak & hope…Wondering all the while if
somewhere, somehow, there's someone perfect who might be searching for us".
Going by that logic, I think we should
stop matching our ‘prospectives’
with the list of 'Must haves' that all of us have in our heads, somewhere deep
down. Rather, see if you feel the sense of 'completeness' with that person, because
as per Plato, that’s what the objective of our lives is…to seek wholeness.
Some poems don't rhyme, and some stories
don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing,
having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing
what's going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity!
